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If you believe you can,
you will. If you believe you can’t, you
won’t.
No matter what your musical skill level is
right now, there are going to be many
significant challenges ahead of you. Your
attitudes, and the ways you deal with
musical challenges, will be single greatest
factor in determining how much you will
achieve as a musician. If you believe that
you can, and will, overcome your greatest
challenges, you will find a way, or you will
seek help from a teacher, trainer, coach or
mentor that will help you through it. If you
don’t believe you can achieve, your done,
it’s over, because you won’t.
A true story of self-fulfilling prophecy
OK, a short history lesson here might go a
long way, so here it is. In early 16th
century Mexico, existed a great empire
called the “Aztecs”. In fact, it was the
most powerful civilization in North America
up to the year 1519. It was in that year
when the Spanish conquest began. Cortez
brought with him about 400 men, and with
these soldiers, they defeated virtually the
entire Aztec empire. How did Cortez’s men
defeat this great empire with only 400 men?
Was it with superior weapons or superior
military tactics? No! The Aztec emperor (and
many of his people) believed in a myth that
some day in the future a “god” would return
to Mexico to destroy them. When the
Spaniards arrived with their strange skin
color, beards, clothes and weapons, the
Aztecs “knew” they couldn’t win. They
believed they could not overcome the power
of Cortez’s tiny army because they thought
Cortez was the “god” who was returning to
destroy them. The Aztec empire was destroyed
forever by a false belief (that Cortez was
their “god” and that it was impossible and
useless to try to defeat him)! There are
many other military defeats throughout world
history caused by other types of false
beliefs. Had the defeated armies and/pr
rulers had different beliefs, the history of
the world could have turned out to be quite
different.
As you see above, the negative results of
false beliefs, and not believing in oneself,
can be devastating for entire civilizations,
so imagine how badly your negative beliefs
can hurt your ability to effectively learn
your instrument!
Lets find out where your attitude is
likely to be
1. Play something on your instrument that
you cannot play perfectly yet.
2. Listen critically to your playing.
3. Identify problems and try to define for
yourself what they are.
4. What are your mental thought patterns?
What is the voice inside your mind telling
you?
Lets say what you played above was a scale
at high speed. You noticed that not all the
notes were played cleanly. Now lets look at
two types of thought patterns and attitudes
you might have about that:
1. You say to yourself, “These notes are not
even, clean and clear….I can’t get it!… This
sounds terrible!….I guess I have to try
harder….it still doesn’t sound good…I just
CAN”T do it!….Maybe I just don’t have what
it takes……?”
2. Or you say to yourself, “These notes are
not even, clean and clear….I’m going to
record myself playing these scales, so I can
listen while I am focused only on
“listening” and not on “playing”….Where do
the worst spots seem to be
happening?…..Where are the better notes
located?……Hmmm, I notice the problem seems
to be occurring when I change from string to
string or every time I use my ring
finger…..Perhaps, the string changing
problem is caused from inefficient right
hand motion and maybe the ring finger is
causing problems because it’s not working
independently from the other fingers…..I’ll
ask my teacher about this and he will
probably offer specific exercises I can do
to strengthen these weak areas. Then I’ll be
able to play these scales correctly!….”
The results
Obviously the differences between these two
opposite attitudes are huge. More
importantly is the difference in “results”
one will get from choosing to approach the
same problem with opposite thought patterns
and attitudes. The first attitude offers
only self-doubt, pessimism, a negative
self-image and hopelessness. The second
offers confidence, self-reliance, hope,
optimism, security and the desire to get
through the difficulty of mastering this
technique. Even though working with a great
teacher is the very best way to improve your
skills, only your thought patterns, positive
attitude, and the way you deal with
challenges, will make significant
improvement actually happen. It’s that
simple!
Why most people fail to ever become
musicians.
More than half of people in the United
States who begin to play an instrument will
quit in less than one year from the time
they begin to play. Another significant
percentage of people will play occasionally,
but will not make much forward progress on
their instrument. Why? Well there are many
possible factors, but the biggest two
reasons are:
1. They took the first attitude mentioned
above.
2. They didn’t learn from a great teacher on
a long-term basis.
Inaction: The worst possible thing
Inaction (taking “no” action), when action
is necessary, is the worst possible thing, I
can think of, for all areas in life. For
most people, inaction comes easily and
naturally. It’s so easy to do “nothing”.
It’s so easy to “not” take guitar lessons.
It’s so easy to “not” find a better teacher,
coach and mentor. Hey, I’m not perfect
either, there were plenty of times in my
past when I too took the path of least
resistance and did nothing when I really
needed to. Those decisions to do nothing (or
to do little) led me to…..
Regrets
A few years ago, I got tired of living with
regrets and made some interesting
observations about them. Regret is a poison,
a toxic waste that marinates in your soul.
What drives our regrets? Most of our regrets
in life occurred, not from what we have done
(or said or thought), but from we didn’t do.
Our failures are not the main cause of
regret and unhappiness, it is passing up our
opportunities to grow, improve and make
things better that hurts us most. Think
about it.
What will you do?
I teach a private and correspondence music
careers class where I teach, train and coach
my students to become professional
musicians, music teachers, etc. The very
first (and probably most valuable) thing I
do as my student’s mentor is ask them this
question: “What are you committed to do,
RIGHT NOW TODAY, to reach your goals? Even
if you are only able to make a small baby
step forward, tell me WHAT WILL YOU DO RIGHT
NOW?!?! This very moment is the first moment
of your future. You create your future by
what you do in the present!
So, what will YOU do right now? What
thoughts will you allow to fill your mind?
Who will you call or email? How will you
spend the rest of your day? What action will
take right now? What will you do in this
“present” moment, which will contribute to
your future?
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